Essays

A collection of reflective essays on identity, resilience, culture and the quiet moments that shape our lives.

New essay published every Sunday.

When Did Being Busy Become a Badge of Honour? | Kandidly Kay

A reflection on busyness, productivity and why having time to rest might be a better measure of a full life than having a full diary. Somewhere along the way, “busy” became shorthand for successful, important and needed.

When Did Being Busy Become a Badge of Honour? | Kandidly Kay

Why I Still Pick Up the Phone

Sometimes there is nothing to fix and no perfect thing to say. After almost a decade with Samaritans, Kay reflects on what thousands of conversations have taught her about the quiet power of simply listening.

Why I Still Pick Up the Phone

When the Body Knows Before You Do | Kandidly Kay

A personal reflection on stress, relationships and the quiet difference between chemistry, anxiety and finally feeling at peace.

When the Body Knows Before You Do | Kandidly Kay

Do We Actually Need Another Celebrity Podcast? | Kandidly Kay

A funny reflection on celebrity podcasts, performative authenticity and whether every conversation now needs a microphone, a beige sofa and a neon sign. From beige sofas and enormous microphones to “raw, honest and unfiltered conversations”, Kay refl

Do We Actually Need Another Celebrity Podcast? | Kandidly Kay

Topics explored here include identity, grief, healing,

self-worth, resilience and the quiet work of personal growth.