Writing: Essays for Complicated Seasons
Essays from the inside
A Sunday column for complicated seasons.
Personal essays exploring identity, resilience, grief and growth — written as quiet reflections on the moments that shape who we become.
Each piece on Kandidly Kay is a short essay about life’s complicated seasons, offering thoughtful words for experiences we don’t always know how to say out loud.
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Michael Jackson Was Never Just a Man
A quiet reflection on what it means to be seen but not truly known.
Not about the performance, but the person behind it.
And the quiet cost of being everything to everyone.
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Essays from the inside.
Personal reflections on identity, resilience, healing, and the things we don’t always say out loud.
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I Don’t Need Anything. That Was My First Mistake.
You weren’t buying a top. Or a candle. Or another pair of trainers.
You were buying into a version of yourself that felt very real for about seven minutes on a Tuesday evening.
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A Little Life Isn’t a Book. It’s a Test.
There are books you read.
And then there are books that read you.
A Little Life falls into the second category.
Michael Jackson Was Never Just a Man
A quiet reflection on what it means to be seen but not truly known.
Not about the performance, but the person behind it.
And the quiet cost of being everything to everyone.
We Need To Talk: The Real Price of Addiction
A quiet reflection on addiction, accountability, and the stories that often go unheard. Inspired by a conversation that goes beyond headlines into something more human.
Louis Theroux Didn’t Shout. He Listened. That’s Why He Stayed With Us.
A reflection on listening, quiet curiosity, and why Louis Theroux’s approach still resonates. Not about speaking louder, but understanding deeper.
Yellowstone Was Never About Land. It Was About Power.
A reflection on power, control, and what it quietly costs. Inspired by Yellowstone, this piece looks at where control shows up in everyday life.
Went to Dublin for a Big Birthday… and Came Back to Myself
No performance. No trying. Just proper food and people getting on with their day. The kind of place that does not need to prove anything.
I trusted it immediately.
Almost Everything Works Again If You Just Unplug It. Including You.
A quiet reflection on overwhelm, mental noise, and the need to step back. If everything feels like too much, this may help you pause.
The People Who Keep Everything Moving
A heartfelt message to pay professionals who quietly keep everything moving, reminding them they are human, deserving of rest, support and the courage to be heard.
It Was Never About How He Would Die
A quiet reflection on identity, survival, and what happens when the fight is over. If you’ve ever struggled to let go of survival mode, this may stay with you.
Where the Mind Goes the Body Follows
After a season of celebration, a gentle plant-based reset proves that where the mind goes the body follows, using a focused juice cleanse to support balance, energy and self-kindness.
The Phone Call That Changed Everything
A true story of one phone call on a busy platform that transformed anxiety into connection, proving how being truly listened to can change everything.
The Small Wins
You don’t need headline moments to feel like you’re winning at life. This piece explores how quiet, everyday wins quietly build confidence, resilience, and a deeper sense of real, grounded success.
Listening Through the Noise
A moody reflection on Sons of Anarchy, exploring love, grief, loyalty and the quiet grief beneath chaos, and what it teaches us about listening to ourselves.
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